Collaborative Law,
Not Combative Law
Easier. Cheaper. Quicker.
More Effective. More Human.
Because business is hard enough
Without battling lawyers making it worse
From our schools, to our pubs, streets, sports pitches, homes and even our nations, we've worked hard to outlaw combat.
Yet somehow our legal system is still built around defence, arguments, sides, winners & losers. ​Combat in legal matters brings complexity, costs money and creates enemies: yet it seems virtually inevitable.
But legal fights are a choice. There is a different way.
A way that's easier, cheaper, quicker.
A way that's simpler, nicer, more effective.
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That way is our 'Collaborative, not Combative Law' strategy, specifically designed to help ambitious, growing businesses get more effective results from their legal stuff, in less time and for less money.
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Relationship First Law
"A breath of fresh air
compared to the trad model"
The Legal Industry Is Deceiving You
Why Combative Law Is Killing Your Business Relationships
(and What to Do Instead)
I hear the same thing from so many ambitious business leaders: dealing with lawyers is expensive, slow, stressful, and usually leaves them with more enemies than they started with.
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Here’s the uncomfortable truth: the legal industry wants it that way.
For decades, law firms have sold conflict as if it were the solution. They tell you that the only way to protect your business is to fight harder, draft longer, and dig deeper trenches.
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But that model serves them, not you. The longer the fight, the bigger the bill.
And all the while, you bleed time, money, and trust. Your deals stall. Your relationships strain. Growth slows.
It’s like hiring a dentist who drills holes in healthy teeth just to guarantee future business. Combative law doesn’t protect you. It manufactures risk to keep the meter running.
The system isn’t broken. The way lawyers use it is.
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The truth is the legal position is rarely the most important thing.
What matters is how the people on the other side respond.
Do they still want to work with you tomorrow? Will they speak well of you in the market? Will they invest again?
Combative law ignores that.
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The Alternative: Relationship First Law
Relationship-First Law is about collaboration, not combat.
Context, not isolation. Relationships first, law second.
It doesn’t mean being soft. It means being smart.
It means designing your legal foundations to empower growth, not stifle it:
Creating contracts that build trust and set up both sides for long-term success.
Having discussions that protect relationships as much as balance sheets.
Receiving advice that delivers results on the ground, not just points scored in a legal argument.
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The outcome? Faster deals. Cheaper processes. More effective results. And business relationships that actually grow stronger under pressure, instead of snapping apart.
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Proof It Works
From over 20 years of working in and with ambitious growing businesses in many different industries
I’ve seen first hand what happens when you flip the script.
A five-year IP battle I led cost millions but was finally resolved not through devastating arguments, but through a simple act: me going off-script and apologising. That apology ultimately built the relationship that led to the resolution.
A ticking time bomb of anger on social media from some small designers was defused with a credit that recognised their creativity, rather than an expensive and careful analysis confirming there was no copying.
As a Fractional GC, I’ve helped ambitious businesses redesign their contracts to speed up sales cycles rather than stall them, and steered them away from stressful, expensive courtroom gambles to focus instead on long-term opportunities.
An urgent piece of new business from a multi-national was landed by a client ditching a contract and using a focussed discussion document, written in plain English in a conversational style, to quickly get the comfort they needed, as the client simply couldn't afford to sue the much larger customer.
By focussing their time and energy on replacing the lost business when their partner simply halted supplies, a client avoided thousands in legal fees and months of wasted management time, while also securing a strong new relationship to replace the toxic broken one.
Businesses really can convert their legal headaches into strategic advantages simply by changing the frame: from me-versus-you, to us-together.
This isn’t theory. It works.
Ready to do things differently?
You don’t have to keep bleeding time, money, and trust on outdated, combative legal models. Relationship First Law is a better way.
And if you’re ambitious, you can’t afford to ignore it.
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Because the next time you’re staring down a contract, a dispute, or a negotiation, the real question isn’t "what does the law say?"
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The real question is "what do I want this relationship to look like tomorrow, next quarter, and in five years?"
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Ask that, and your legal strategy becomes clear.
How We Can Help
We can help you get more collaborative, and less combative, in your legal stuff in several ways.
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